Now scheduling a virtual 10-week group to begin in January 2021. Please get in touch if you're interested. Open for any resident of California. 

The current group is now full. Please scroll down to be notified the next time it is offered. 
8 Monday morning virtual meetings  
a diverse and inclusive group
September 14 -November 2 2020
10am-12pm
$640 plus $160 intake session
Please inquire about sliding scale 
*Individual intake session with Pamela is required before joining the group

Growing up with a parent with Borderline Personality Disorder can be both difficult and isolating. Many children of parents with BPD never experienced the emotional stability, security and support they needed.  If you had a parent with BPD or a history of trauma and emotional instability, this group may be especially helpful, particularly if you:

    •    Want to explore and understand the impact of growing up with a parent with BPD
    •    Are drawn to persons with histories of trauma or emotional dysregulation
    •    Find yourself trying to accommodate others, even when it is not in your best interest
    •    Have difficulty trusting yourself and others
    •    Are confused about the validity of your needs
    •    Have difficulty maintaining your personal boundaries
    •    Long for understanding
    •    Feel uncomfortable in "your own skin"

Perhaps you’ve tried many ways to heal and still feel stuck. That’s understandable -- healing is a long and complex process. Come be in our circle and experience the support of others whose lives have also been touched by BPD.

This eight-week group will  incorporate mindfulness, experiential exercises, resource building, interpersonal sharing, as well as other therapeutic practices that support recovery from trauma. Participants will receive mirroring, support, as well as opportunities for integration and connection.

Each week's theme relates to the experience of growing up with a parent with BPD. Themes include: boundaries, emotional volatility/unpredictability, resources, knowing what we want, understanding our parent’s history.

Participants have reported:

• feeling at home in a group unlike ever before
• integration of the theoretic with lived experience
• a boost in their sense of confidence and competence

This work is an important step toward reversing patterns of intergenerational trauma. 

What is Borderline Personality Disorder? 
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This is a complex and stigmatized diagnosis. For many reasons, it is often undiagnosed. Please note: Admission into the therapy group does not equal a diagnosis for your parent. 

A diagnosis of BPD requires 5 of the following symptoms:

1. Fear of abandonment
2. Unstable relationships
3. Unclear or shifting self-image
4. Impulsive, self-destructive behaviors 
5. Self-harm
6. Extreme emotional swings
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness
8. Emotional volatility, especially anger
9. Feeling suspicious or out of touch with reality

The symptoms must have been present since adolescence and can be caused by a combination of environmental and biological factors. 

Note: I have had requests for groups for folks with a loved one with BPD. Do you have a partner, or family member with BPD? Please reach out and indicate this on the contact form. Or feel free to email, call or text me directly. The next group will likely be designed for you.